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(Warning: this posts
contains discussions of suicide – specifically that of Chester
Bennington - mental health problems, and grief; it also mentions addiction problems and child
First of all guys, if you
need help with mental health stuff, ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE IN A BAD
PLACE RIGHT NOW, there are links to helplines and resources at the end of this post.
You are valuable, you are
valid, and we want you here.
The news of the death of Chester Bennington - the lead singer of rock band Linkin Park - was a big and painful shock to his fans.
I cried. And I wasn't the
But people were also a
little taken aback by their own reactions to the news.
This comparison thing
started to creep into a lot of people's discussions, a metaphorical,
'Why am I acting like this when I didn't personally know him?
Especially when I didn't act like this when [person] died, and I knew
Oh my dearest nerdlets,
grief doesn't care what you 'should' be feeling. There is no wrong
way to grieve.
You feel what you feel. And
Linkin Park meant a lot to
so many people.
And Chester... that voice, those words, that soul.
There is nothing wrong with mourning the passing of a star that shone
so brightly in life.
Not only that, but mourning
for the loss of what could have been.
He was only 41. He had 6
children. His life was only half lived. There is no shame in tears
for such a sad loss of so much potential.
Grief is a funny thing, my
darlings, it's so many emotions tied into one that you don't even
know which way is up.
If it sounds like I'm
struggling to make sense in this post, then it's because I'm
struggling to make sense in this post.
This subject is so raw, and
so muddled in my little Bookish Rebel brain.
But it was important that I
talk to you, my dearest nerdlets, because these things should not
be avoided. People with mental health problems are not a dirty little
who die from suicide are killed by their illness.
Bennington was a beautiful person, and for many of his fans he
resembled more than just a person. Many people saw themselves
reflected in him and his music.
want to draw too many parallels, as one of the risks with the reporting of celebrity suicides is that those who relate to the person may over-identify,
creating a risk of imitation.
the last thing I want, and I'm sure the last thing Chester would have
this case though, Linkin Park fans already felt a kind of kinship
with Chester, and
I feel like ignoring that would be even more harmful.
We, as fans, connected with him; so we need to mourn him, and to understand why his death has hit us so hard.
the lessons from Chester's life
rather than his death.
art. Pour your raw feelings into music or words or paint on a page.
That is the way to
also understand that Chester Bennington was a complex person. He was
not one element, and neither was his death.
suicide of Chris Cornell (another US rock singer,) hit him hard, yes, but it was NOT the only
To say so (as I've seen a lot of media imply over the last few days,) would be doing both of them a huge disservice.
going to speculate on the reasons behind Chester's death – he was ill, and the factors behind suicide are usually numerous and complex.
you were a fan of his music, you probably
already understand that his life was full of struggle.
notably had problems with drugs and alcohol from his teen years
– if you have any addiction problems my dear nerdlets, there are helpline directories listed below. PLEASE get help.
had also experienced sexual abuse as a child, and sought to help
charities which supported survivors. Again, if this is something that
affects you, please seek help. This is/was NOT your