Showing posts with label everyday life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label everyday life. Show all posts

Sunday, 14 July 2019

Nerd Church - Casual Homophobia: A Thousand Cuts



(Warning: this post discusses several instances of homophobia, and the feelings caused.)

I use the term homophobia here as a catch-all for all types of bigotry against LGBTQ+ people.



When I was very, very, small, someone I love - an adult - said something that stuck a tiny dagger into my heart.





They said, "...it shows being Gay as something natural. Which it's not."


And a teeny-tiny voice in my small child brain said, 'But what about me?' and then I stamped it down very, very, hard.

Partly because I didn't know what I meant. What about me? What was I?

Well, if straight was the natural... then I was straight? Right?



Wednesday, 10 July 2019

Month in Review(s) - June 2019





June kind of flew by!

Partly because I was super-busy! Which is also why I (once again) posted less here than I wanted to.

I did manage to post a review though! Woo! I can still call myself a book blog! (Lol.) 😅



June - Mehefin graphic with blue sky and sun shape



Sunday, 7 July 2019

Nerd Church - The Writer Diaries: Turns Out, People Are Interested



I've never really had much confidence in my writing.

Like, objectively I know that people read this blog but... it always surprises (and delights,) me when someone comments, shares, etc. (Hint hint. Lol.)


fountain pen on an open notebook


Likewise, I'm always on edge about the fiction I write - it can't be something someone'd be interested in reading, right?

At the same time, not writing would be like not breathing. Unthinkable.

It's literally who I am - I breathe. I read. I write.

Sunday, 23 June 2019

Nerd Church - Anxiety: Worrying About Sh** I Actually Don't Care About



(Warning: this post discusses Anxiety (which you probably figured out) and Depression)


If you're worried about paying the bills when you've got no money in the bank, that's logical.

Likewise, worrying about a friend who's been going through a tough time, or feeling anxious before you give a speech, is totally understandable.




'Anxiety Worrying About Sh** I Don't Actually Care About' title image w/ multi-coloured stripes on the right-hand side



Anxiety, though?

Anxiety blows the normal sh** out of proportion, while adding some completely illogical sh** t'boot.



Wednesday, 5 June 2019

Month in Review(s) - May 2019


May was another month of ups-and-downs.



Such is life - we just keep moving after all!



Things are starting to kind of improve depression-wise, if you squint and turn your head a bit, so... that's good!


'May' graphic with yellow flower

Sunday, 2 June 2019

Nerd Church - The World's Exhausting Expectations of Women



Who the hell is it that's making 'the Social norms' anyway?

Cos I think we all need to have a few words with them.



The World's Exhausting Expectations of Women with a woman asleep on a bed and her pug dog flopped in front of her




I mean, the amount of stuff we're expected to be and not be doesn't make any goddamn sense. The 'shoulds' and 'shouldn'ts' are ridiculous.

(In a broad sense, I mean - I'm sure there's stuff you actually should do, like eat and sleep and go to the loo, and stuff you shouldn't like arson, theft, murder, voting for Donald Trump, etc.

There's exceptions to most generalisations.)



Women, for example, get a raw effing deal.

Just looking at ads and articles aimed at women can sometimes be goddamned exhausting!


Sunday, 26 May 2019

Nerd Church - Game of Thrones: No-One's Very Happy, Which Means It's A Good Compromise



This post has Game of Thrones **spoilers** EVERY GOD-DAMN-WHERE! Ok? Ok.

It's best to get the spoiler warnings outta the way. 😉

Also, y'know this is Game of Thrones, so general WARNING for potentially distressing content.





Sunday, 12 May 2019

Nerd Church - The Writer Diaries: Patchwork Writing and Whatever Works For You



Some people are 'plotters,' some people are 'pantsers' - and I write in patchwork.

For those who don't know, writing fiction is generally split into two camps by the people who split things (whoever they are - I'm not sure anyone's ever met them) - plotting and pantsing.



writing and knitting stuff on a desk
Image by Pexels from Pixabay



Wednesday, 8 May 2019

Month in Review(s) - April 2019




April - well, April didn't have any work-related nose-bleeds, for a start!

Thanks to everyone for asking if I was ok, etc, last month - honestly I think you guys were a lot more worried about it than I was 😅



April title image with artsy girl in red coat holding an umbrella



On the one hand, April had Easter and chocolate and spring flowers, and all that awesome stuff!

Y'know, lots of fun stuff to enjoy and smile about! 😊

Sunday, 5 May 2019

Nerd Church - The 9 Most Annoying Things That Have Been Said To Me About Being A Second-Generation Vegetarian




I was raised Vegetarian.

So even as Vegetarianism and Veganism has become more main-stream, I've been sat here in a unique kind of space, that not many people get to see.



happy cartoon woman with cooking utensils and vegetables
Image by nugroho dwi hartawan from Pixabay


I've spent my entire life as a Vegetarian.

Which, especially when I was younger, before it became popular, did create some tensions... not least because nothing used to be labelled with a 'V' or whatever.

Sunday, 21 April 2019

Nerd Church - Happy Easter (or, Let's Respect Each Other, Yeah?)



Happy Easter/Pasg Hapus dearest nerdlets!


coloured eggs in nest
Image by Couleur from Pixabay



One of the most enduring symbols of Easter is eggs, dontcha think?

Chocolate eggs, painted eggs, eggs with chicks breaking out, eggs just randomly decorating everything!

But I've been noticing some egg-hate lately.

And I don't mean from Vegans - that's a whole different set of issues related to a different set of moral questions - nope, I mean from people who don't know much about history.


Friday, 19 April 2019

Friday Fics Fix - Easter in Haven



'Audrey and Nathan dashed into the Grey Gull, each imagining terrible scenarios. None of their fears involved Duke with a spatula in hand, staring at the bar.'


fics fix title image with purple background and white lightning bolt shape



One of my favouritest TV shows of all time is Haven.

If you haven't heard of it, then I'm not angry, just disappointed (not in you - in Society in general! 😅)

Wednesday, 10 April 2019

Month In Review(s) - March 2019



March was blood, sweat, and tears.

...literally!



March title image with daffodils on right-hand side


March was a month in which I worked my a** off (no change there then!) and learned that apparently when my body's decided I've worked too much, it gives me a spike of Anxiety and a nose-bleed.

I f**k you not.


Sunday, 7 April 2019

Nerd Church - 4 Tips For Blogging When Busy




I've been super-busy lately, and I've just about managed to keep up with the blogging.

I haven't got everything done that I wanted to do, but I've kept it ticking over with my average of 3 posts a week, plus answering comments, blog-hopping, Twitter-ing, and all the hidden blog tasks like SEO and finding images for posts.

graphic with 'blog' written/stencilled repeatedly with artsy globe
Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay


Phew! When I put it that way, I wonder how I've been doing all this plus running my own business and dealing with regular life-stuff, but I have! (No wonder I've been so tired!)

Also there has been literal blood, sweat, and tears over the past month - I've come to the conclusion that I don't need to add to that with stress over blogging!


Sunday, 24 March 2019

Nerd Church - The Dilemma of Morally Dubious Media (Ft. American Psycho, Game of Thrones and Harry Potter)


Warning: this post discusses morally dubious media, including but not limited to: rape, murder, incest, general violence.



'First learn the rules then break them' written on a chalk board
Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay


American Psycho is about a serial killer that takes pleasure in raping and killing women in the most horrible ways, and the narrative goes into gratuitous detail about it.



Do I have your attention? Buckle up, dearest nerdlets!


No matter what, there is always gonna be media - books, films, TV series, whatever - that is kinda dubious on the ol' morality front.

Is that ok? Is that something we should be consuming? Is that something that people should be creating?

And if it isn't, is that something that we should be supressing?

Should we be, to put it bluntly, censoring it?

Wednesday, 13 March 2019

Month in Review(s) - February 2019



February was... OK.




February title image w/ desk, paper, and scattered hearts


Look, I'd love to say it was great. But my Depression has been kind of up-and-down.

So I can't honestly call it 'great' - but 'ok' is fairly accurate.

I survived it. I even enjoyed some of it. So 'ok' is what I'm gonna call it.


Sunday, 3 March 2019

Nerd Church - Save the World



With the world the way it is (*looks out at trash fire and sighs*) the major issue our planet is facing is in danger of being pushed to the side-lines.

But we need to focus on climate change.

Because, contrary to what the loud handful of naysayers say, we are wrecking the planet.


globe crumbling to ash and embers
Image by TheDigitalArtist on Pixabay