Comics Wrap Up - Calling Out Your Name

Film Trailers

Yet more X-Men: Apocalypse TV ads and film clips this week. Not that I'm complaining. ;)

(Although, it does make you wonder, just a little, how much unseen footage the film will actually have.)

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...D'aww, sad-face Magneto >.<

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I love the next one. Jubilee doing a cheesy 80s commercial for Xavier's school (with a familiar voice-over at the end!)

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And someone in the editing department for this next one? Thanks for all the interaction between the characters and the critics' quotes - my film-nerd side is very happy :)

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And this last one? Dun-dun-duuuunnn! :)

Graphic Novels

This week I read Codename Baboushka, Volume 1: The Conclave of Death (UK - US,) which is about a Russian lady-mafia-boss slash spy slash assassin slash whatever-she-needs-to-be-at-the-time.

Comparisons with Marvel's Black Widow are inevitable (and valid,) but I enjoyed it, and I'll be reviewing it very soon. :)

Plus, the cover looks the poster for a spy movie: I mean, look at that!

Other Stuff

Something beautiful happened this week - people showed Marvel that there's a real taste for change.

People spoke up, and told the studios exactly what they want - and what they want is to #GiveCaptainAmericaABoyfriend.

(And I quite agree.)

Will the studio listen to the social media clamour? Who knows.

But the louder and longer the fans call out, the harder it will be to ignore.



For the time being though, Marvel have decided to just make Cap a Hydra Nazi.

Yeah, cos that works. (Rolls eyes, bashes head against table repeatedly.)

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(This is Batman. Being disappointed in Cap. This is what you've reduced me to Marvel. Me - a lifelong Marvel-girl - using an animated DC gif. Of Batman. Because I can't even look at you right now. I hope you're happy.)

Marvel, would you honestly rather Cap was a f**king Nazi than non-heterosexual?

Are we seriously having this f**king discussion?!?!



Just do what the people want. Get your heads out of your a**es and allow the comics to go back to not be freaking insane.

Let Cap stand up for his ideals and not be a Nazi(for f**ks sake, how did we get to this point?)

Then allow Cap his Bucky. It's time.

#GiveCaptainAmericaABoyfriend.
#SayNoToHYDRACap.

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Give Cap his Bucky. It's time.

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6 Ways To Read More Widely

Lots of people want to read more widely.

But, as creatures of habit, we tend to get stuck in one genre, niche, or whatever. Here then are some handy-dandy tips for reading more widely.

I'm here to serve, after all :) (and entertain, and be totally random, and possibly scare you.)

1. Confuse the f**k outta Goodreads.


If you're generally bookish, you will already know of Goodreads.

If not, then welcome to bookishness! Let me take your coat and strap you to the table! (That was a joke - please don't run off.)

Goodreads is basically social-networking for books. It's addictive and demands your soul as a blood-price :) I'm currently about three souls in debt.

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I have generally succeeded in f**king up my Goodreads recs. This was done by a combination of random reading habits, and adding pretty much every major genre to 'favourites.'

As a result, Goodreads now throws me recs for pretty much every book on the planet.

The downside to this, unfortunately, is that there is no rhyme or reason to my recs. This can be irritating and unhelpful sometimes - like, when I'm in a certain mood and none of these books fit that!

But, I have also found some randomly awesome stuff this way.





2. Explore a new genre.


I wasn't a fan of YA contemporary novels, but my fellow book bloggers infected me with their never-ending enthusiasm for the genre, and I'm currently on a bit of a YA contemporary binge.

And you know what? I'm actually enjoying it.

So don't be afraid to leap head-first out of your comfort zone.

If there's a genre that you want to give a try, try looking up lists of recommended titles on Goodreads or do a Google search, and see what catches your eye.

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3. Explore a new author.

You've heard absolutely loads about [insert flavour-of-the-month author here] but you don't think they've written anything you'll enjoy.

Don't force yourself to read something if it patently isn't for you, but also take a look at the author's back-catalogue, and read the synopses of some of their books.

I thought I wouldn't like Rainbow Rowell, but tried out Carry On because it looked most like the sort of stuff I enjoyed. Ditto with Jodi Picoult and Salem Falls.

And you might end up actually finding an author you click with as a result, or at the very least an interesting read.

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4. Browse.

This may seem like a no-brainer, but it's still worth a shot.

Go into your local library or bookshop and just browse. Pick up books at random and look at their synopses.

Buy/borrow (dependent on whether it's a library or a shop, obviously,) any that aren't too expensive and you like the look of.

Be brave and don't be afraid to give something new a try - you might find a gem.

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5. Indulge your guilty pleasures.


THERE SHOULD BE NO GUILT IN READING.

If you enjoy something - enjoy it. And people who claim to be 'well-read' but poke their noses up at 'lesser' or genre books?

They aren't well-read. They're just jerks :)

I used to feel uber-self-conscious at reading things that were seen as trashy etc. But I've decided I'm not going to feel guilty any more.

I READ VICTORIAN LITERATURE AND GAY WEREWOLF PORN - AND I DON'T CARE!!!!

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6. Take recommendations from a variety of sources.


If you listen to the bookish interweb chatter, or just your friend who's raving about the latest bestseller, you're likely to come across something you haven't heard of before.

And you might just be tempted to give it a whirl ;)





What about you guys? Any tips for reading more widely?



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Review Time! (Yay!) - Boy Meets Boy by David Levithan

Title: Boy Meets Boy

Author: David Levithan

Genre: YA, LGBTQ+ and Drag Queen, Contemporary, Romance (M/M)

A few starting notes:

This was on 'My Contemporary YA TBR.' I honestly can't remember why I put it on there, or how I heard about it in the first place. But there you have it! ;)

Anyhow, I decided to give this and shot and hope for the best. Which I did. And I really enjoyed it!

Mini-Review - One by Sarah Crossan

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Title: One 

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Author: Sarah Crossan

Genre: YA, Contemporary, Poetry* (*novel in verse.)

Verdict:

This is the first novel in verse that I've ever read - and I did find the form a little... odd.

Not bad, necessarily, just odd. I don't know whether I liked the form or not, really. It was different, I'll give it that.

But poetry in general is an incredibly personal thing - so... make of that what you will I guess!

Nerd Church - Asking For Help

16-22 May is Mental Health Awareness Week in the UK. May is also Mental Health Month in the US.



This post is the last of my Mental Health Awareness Week posts.


Just as a quick re-cap, here are my posts from the rest of the week:

• Monday: Colour Me Happy - a post about colouring and mental health

• Tuesday: Mini-Review! - Reasons To Stay Alive by Matt Haig - a short review of Matt Haig's book on depression and anxiety.

• Tuesday: Guest Post on Book Bloggers International: MENTAL HEALTH MONTH: The Wolf in My Mind By Cee Arr from Diary of a Reading Addict - a post I wrote about my experiences of depression, reading, and blogging. Please give it a look - it took a lot to write it! 

• Wednesday: The View From Both Sides - a post about looking at mental health from the views of both carer & sufferer

• Saturday: Words Hurt - a list of phrases, said to people suffering from mental health problems, which are just not helpful.

What I'm going to talk about today is my experience as a patient in the NHS - just the first appointment, really. 


This hopefully will explain some of the difficulties there are to mental health patients to just get some help in the first place.

And let's be perfectly clear on this - it's OK to ask for help!






The decision


I was in a bad place, (more about that on my BBI guest post.) So, something in my head clicked into place (thank God,) and I decided to go to the doctor's.





First challenge - getting that first appointment.


I asked for a same-day 'emergency' appointment.

The receptionist wouldn't let me make one without me telling her what was wrong.

I even went as far as to say that I'd rather only discuss it with the doctor - nope. Had to tell her, or no appointment.

I cannot tell you how much that hurt.

To have to tell the receptionist something that should have been my decision to tell or not.

The horrendous shame I felt as I whispered 'I think I might be depressed,' and tried not to cry down the phone at the sheer hurt of it all... no. That WASN'T right. I shouldn't have had to do that.

Second challenge - convincing the doctor.


Dr Blonde (obv. not her real name) can be quite shirty.

And clearly she thought I was faking. At least at first.

To not be believed? Insult after injury.

She asked me, fairly snippily, what made me think I was depressed. Surely, the very fact that I think it makes it a genuine possibility?

You don't ask a bleeding patient, 'what makes you think you're bleeding?' The patient is bleeding. Deal with it - quickly!




This was the doctor - the person who is supposed to help me.


And other doctors have been a lot worse.

They've even inferred (by tone, which is so much more difficult to complain about than if the words themselves were offensive, because you have no proof,) that I'm wasting their time and resources.

To be fair to Dr Blonde, once I broke down the wall of disbelief, she was nothing but helpful.

But I shouldn't have had to break down that wall with my tiny little pickaxe. There shouldn't have been a wall there to begin with.





Third challenge - discussing treatment.


I was offered three types of treatment:

1. Hope it goes away by itself

Couldn't believe this was actually being suggested by a medical profession - particularly after I'd told her that I could barely eat or sleep, amongst all the other dark and serious stuff we'd been discussing.




2. Self-help books

While I'm not against self-help books - for some people this is the way to go - it just wasn't the right fit for me. I would've ended up arguing with it and/or misreading it as criticism.

Still, if it's right for you - go for it!





3. Tablets

I know a lot of people are against tablets. To those I say - fine, it might not work for you. But I needed this.

And I get annoyed by the anti-tablet pressure that there seems to be socially - it's hard enough to ask for help, it shouldn't be taboo to take the help you need.





What I was not offered was talking therapy. Neither was I offered a combination of the above treatments. It was very much a pick one and stick with it approach.




But the strong ask for help. You are strong - whoever you are. Please remember that.



Nerd Church is a weekly post where I go off on one discuss issues. This week I'm talking about mental health to fit in with MHAW 2016 not that I usually need an excuse. You can continue the conversation elsewhere, but please link back here :)





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Words Hurt

16-22 May is Mental Health Awareness Week in the UK. May is also Mental Health Month in the US.

As I've said in this week's previous posts, mental health is a very individualistic thing - if any of this doesn't apply to you, then it's OK.

Also, often it's not what's said, it's how it's said. 

Do what works for you, and your situation.

I've noticed that people - well-meaning, lovely, kind, people - have no idea what to say to someone with depression.

In order to fill the void of silence (not knowing that it doesn't always need to be filled,) they stick their foot in their mouth and say things that aren't that helpful.

Don't get me wrong, I know you're trying to help (most of you anyway.) But maybe you could use some help knowing what not to say?

That way we all know each other a little better, and we can stop the misunderstandings, myths, and stigma surrounding mental health.






Here are just a few of my personal (least) favourite things for people to say to me:

• Cheer up/Smile/Don't look so glum - I hadn't thought of that! Wow, I'm now cured. Not.

• You must feel better - you're smiling - One smile doesn't make everything bad go away, please don't remind me of that. Please don't make me feel bad for smiling.

• Come on - Like 'cheer up,' only less specific. I don't want to slap you, but I will. This is not my fault, and you're implying that it is.

• But you're OK now - Really? This is news to me.

• Everyone gets bad days/is tired now and then/gets PMS - Imagine a kitten biting you. Now imagine a full-grown, and very hungry, lion biting you. It's kind of the same thing. But lions hurt a lot more.

• You look fine - I don't feel it.

• You are a bit pale though - thanks for that. I feel like a million dollars now.

• This has gone a long time now - Really? Funny, I hadn't noticed. I haven't been living with this every day or anything.

I hope that's given you some idea of what the odd careless phrase can mean - again, I'm not trying to be critical - just to bring things out into the open a little more.

And the more we talk about this, the better it will be. This is how we end the stigma around mental health (and believe me, it's there,) and get to a place where everyone can start to feel better.

Overall though, just keep trying. Keep loving. Keep going.

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Friday Fics Fix! - Just Go With It

Warning: I had an excuse to use Sherlock gifs.

I'm not going to sugar-coat it - this week's fic is pretty out-there.

And it's Sherlockian. Which should tell you a lot.

(You know what? Said like that 'Sherlockian' sounds like a country... or maybe a cult.

Luckily, I know the Sherlock fandom well enough to know that the vast majority of them will take being called a cult as a compliment.

The rest of them may very well see it as an aspiration.)

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(Proof of the randomness and magnificence of this fandom.)

Anyhow, the main bizarre-ness of this fic is that it's based heavily on fic-ception.

(Fangirling note:

'Fic-ception' is a term that I use to describe fics which contain fics-within-fics, which in turn affect the main fic.

I know, sounds confusing. Just trust me. It's basically a fic where one of the themes/tropes is fanfiction.)

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There's some sexual content - including rape fantasy - here.

So - do I have to say it? - 18+ only. Right, I've warned you.

Strangely though, this is actually not as graphic, sexy-times-wise, as most fanfiction I read. There's no full-on doing-it in this fic.

Don't let that fool you though - this definitely has sexual content and mature themes.

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Basically, John finds fanfiction about him and Sherlock - dodgy rape-fantasy fanfiction - and it makes him think about Sherlock in a whole other light.

Then Sherlock finds the fanfiction on John's computer, and sexiness ensues.

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Told'ya it was weird. On the scale of fanfiction weirdness though, it's probably still pretty normal.

(Ah 'normal' - how I miss you.)

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This week's fic is:

Lost an Entire Wednesday by beltainefaerie

Enjoy my fellow (over 18!) Sherlockians!



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