Sunday 30 September 2018

Nerd Church - Appreciate Yourself

I'm goddamn tired.

You ever feel like you work your a** off, and there's just... no pay-off?

I kind of feel like that. And I kind of don't.

'great job!' written on a chalkboard

I'm the world's harshest critic when it comes to myself.

I have to work very hard to stop myself from working too hard.

(I know, my life is a walking contradiction.)

Because my default, when things are stressful, is to work even harder.

Which... is not a good plan.

I've talked before about reminding yourself that you're not the answer to the world's ills.

You can't fix everything.

And, if you're like me, you might feel like you've somehow failed when you can't do that.

But you haven't - I promise!

You know what I think - I think people forget how goddamn hard it is to work on things, to do things, to make things happen.

"Oh, you work for yourself?

Must be nice to be at home all day!

Breaks whenever you want!

And it's not like it's 'real' work, after all."

"Oh, you blog?

That's not hard, though, is it?

It's not 'real' writing."

"Oh you write?

That's nice. I wish I had more spare time.

How many books have you published?"

(The correct reply to all of these conversations is to scream internally and mention to the Elves that you dislike this person. What the Fair Ones do with this info. is up to them.)

Yeah, there're advantages to working from home, and from pursuing creative whatjamathings but... it's still work.

And to be honest, if I worked these hours for a company, it'd probably be against labour laws.

And even just working day-in, day-out in a regular full-time or part-time job* is damned hard.

Just because other people do it, it doesn't mean it's easy!

(If you're one of those mythical people with an easy job, by the way, please spread the pot of gold around to the rest of us.

Diolch yn fawr iawn.)

*Or school. Or being a carer. Or searching for work. Or any other thing that requires work or labour.

It's important that we appreciate the work we put into, well... everything.

The work we put into our relationships, our work, our passions, our hobbies, our survivals, and our selves.

Cos if you look back at a day or a week or whatever, and you're just like: 'Well, I got through it,' - THAT'S FREAKING AMAZING.

Maybe for some people it isn't.

But those people probably don't give a sh** about this post to begin with.

(And they need to get on with spreading that pot of gold, yeah?)

For the rest of us? Survival is an achievement.

Cos you're f**king here. And that's fantastic.

So take a moment, and appreciate all that you do.

Appreciate that achievements are hard. And that people rarely give you the credit you deserve.

You're amazing, dearest nerdlets, and please remember that however slow you feel that things are moving, you're doing fine.

And you should be proud of yourself. Cos I'm f**king proud of you!

OK, so... hopefully this post made the least bit of sense! But I'm gonna take my own advice and appreciate the fact that I managed to get it written given that life is hectic af atm!

Do you need to appreciate yourself more?
Do you think people give you enough credit?
Do you give other people enough credit for what they do?
Talk to me! 👍💬 

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Last updated: 9th October 2018


  1. Cee I feel this on every level! That’s why I love it when bloggers show appreciation for other bloggers. It makes our hard work all worth it in the end! I appreciate you, Cee :)

  2. Thank you so much!

    We have to keep reminding ourselves just how much we've managed to achieve - because that's awesome!

    Thanks again! :) <3

  3. Thanks for this, I really needed to hear this! For the past month or so I've just felt so tired and rushed, struggling to fit everything in to the small amount of free time I have. Most days I beat myself up about not being better at my job, or not spending enough time with my daughter. But you're so right-getting through each week is an achievement. People are so judgemental about other people's lifestyles too and the grass is always greener on the other side. But you make a great point that life is hard for everybody, whether you work a 9-5, are self-employed, job hunting, full-time mum or whatever. We all need to be proud ourselves and support each other.

    1. Hell yes! Life is tough, and doing your best and making it through is an achievement all by itself :)

  4. This is a great post! I currently hate my job and feel like I work only to have people put me down and make me feel like I am not good enough. I love blogging because everyone is so uplifting. We encourage each other and never put each other down. When someone starts a business or has an idea, everyone rallies around and helps. It makes me happy I started my side business because most of my blogger friends pushed me to do it and I am grateful for that. Now if I could just get to do it full time or even part time with a new job that would be awesome. Blogging has broken me out of my shell, it has meant so much to me these last 5 years and I am hoping to be around a lot more. I hate when people act like I have nothing to do and have time to blog, I wish they realized how not easy it is but it also is very rewarding! :)

    Love this posts! Thanks for sharing it! <3

    1. Thank you! :) People will always put you down (for some reason... I don't get it myself, but anyway...) but realise that you ARE good enough! You're giving it a shot dammit, and that's amazing!!!!! :) <3


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