Sunday 18 August 2019

Nerd Church - You're Capable (I Promise)

There will be times in your life, dearest nerdlets, when you feel like you're not capable of understanding something, or learning to do something, or actually goddamn doing the thing - whatever the thing may be.

But you ARE capable!

I know, I know - so easy to say.

(Except it's not - for me, it's def. not.)

Gold key with the word 'success' making up the key teeth
Image by Shahid Abdullah from Pixabay

I love bad puns in visual form, ok? 😅 I couldn't resist.

I don't mean that all you have to do is decide you wanna be a rock star, and then, if you want it bad enough, it'll magically happen.

Life doesn't work like that.

If you don't play any instruments, you won't wake up tomorrow as a rock star. Simple as.

But that doesn't mean you're incapable of being a rock star. It'll take a lot of work, a lot of luck, and a lot of blood, sweat and tears, but you can do it.

...Or it might still not happen.

Wait, what?! I thought this was supposed to be an inspiring post about how we Can Do Anything!™

Well, it is.

But it's also a post written by someone (hi!) who lives in the real goddamn world, where life isn't always fair and can throw you curve-balls and place obstacles in your way that will mean that your dream may not happen.

So it's more like 'you have the potential to do anything - but it's gonna be tough and life's gonna tip you on your petite derriere more often than not.'

What I'm saying is this: don't let anyone ever tell you that you'll 'never' be a rock star, that you'll 'never' understand particle physics, that you'll 'never' learn Japanese.

Because you are just as capable as anyone else.

It might take you longer than other people...

But who cares? We all learn and work at our own pace.

Some of us have disabilities that get in the way, or lack of access to learning resources, or hectic lives which mean we just haven't got the time right now.

Some us just spend hours looking at the thing and still don't 'get it' - and that's ok.

It doesn't mean that we'll never 'get it' - we might just need to break it up into smaller pieces, or learn the foundations of whatever it is first, or come back to it another day when we're feeling fresher and more quick off the mark.

And no, you won't necessarily 'make it' in your chosen passion or profession.

It's just honesty. I may never write a bestseller. Hell, I may never get published.

But I'm OK with that - because I love to write.

Of course, I'd love to be able to earn a living with my writing! Of course I'd love the recognition that could bring!

But that doesn't mean I'll stop if I don't get that. It doesn't mean it's not worth trying, but it also is not the only thing that's worth anything in this life.

If you got your A-levels results this week, or are getting GCSE or other results soon, remember this: life is unpredictable.

Good things can happen, bad things can happen, things which are neither good nor bad can happen.

If you love something, love it - for its own sake, not because of what it can get you (obviously it's nice if it can get you stuff, I'm just saying it shouldn't be your *only* reason for loving something.)

Don't be ashamed of working a cr**py job, or surviving on benefits - survival is an achievement, and for some people it's difficult enough to do that.

But don't let anyone limit you, stop you dreaming, stop your passions, stop you hoping for things.

Your path ain't gonna look like theirs. And people who've had a smooth ride don't know what the rough is like.

YOU are capable - be it now or in a decade's time.

There is nothing that is 'too difficult' for you to learn or do - one day. Even if that day is years in the future.

What do you think?
Did I make the least bit of sense, or is this another one of those posts I need to blame my hippie parents for?
Talk to me! 😅💬

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Last updated: 12th October 2019


  1. Never blame your hippie parents for any of these posts, Cee, because these posts rock! They clearly taught you well :D

    1. Ha, I try not to encourage them! And thank you Em!!!! XD <3

  2. I thought this post was going one way and now I am like, "Dang..." I love the part where you say that loving something could be enough. But, I am also going to be real with you: it's hard to release my very sad ego's need for acknowledgment. As much as I hate to admit it, it's very much something I agonize over: being somehow marked as "smart" and then the title continued to be battered and broken over the years. Truth is: I wasn't smart enough for the smart kids and yet I was also way too nervous and self-critical to fully blend in. Sometimes, it seems like my brain just works in self-defeating ways. Have you ever seen The Good Place? There's a character in there, his name is Chidi, and he's a nervous mess. He's basically me (but, like, way smarter. The general demeanor though, that I can identify with).
    Dang. I am rambling in your comment section today.

    1. I haven't seen The Good Place, but I've heard about it *waves hands* around on the Interwebs.

      Acknowledgement is great! But... and I know this is hard... most of it's gotta come from *you*. Cos other people are so wrapped up in their own stuff that half the time they don't notice anyone else.

      I know - I struggle with it too. It's a lot of hard work just to not be so hard on myself.

      I was always too smart for a lot of the smart kids (I'm not bragging, it's just the way it was,) and over the years I became more and more self-critical because no-one *wants* to be the weird kid. But all that did was make me miserable - sure, I avoided some of the nastier comments and a little more of the unwanted attention, but I still wasn't accepted by many people, and now I wasn't even accepted by me... sorry. That got dark kinda fast!

      I often ramble in the comments section. As you can see by the garbled babbling I just did! Lol ;)


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